Chemistry Or Compatibility? Which Is More Important

Which is more important in a relationship: chemistry or compatibility? Or are they equally important? Do men and women have different standards for chemistry and compatibility?


Compatibility is based on common values and life goals, a high level of comfort with each other, shared experiences and the ability to have fun with each other. These are essential components for a lasting relationship.

Chemistry is about looks and body type, but it’s more of a gestalt thing. A person with moderately good looks can be irresistibly attractive if he/she has a great personality. A little tension between the two of you makes things even sexier.

Most women will give men a chance (or two or three), unless they are totally turned off on a first date. Majority of women are interested in emotional and intellectual compatibility first and a physical compatibility/chemistry second. This means women are emotional and don’t get physically attracted to a guy at first.

Men on the other hand judge a woman’s date-ability by how physically attracted they feel on the first date. If they feel chemistry, there is a second date. No chemistry? Next!


In online dating, a woman’s profile picture is the first and most important way to get a man’s attention. Again, men seem to place much more emphasis on a woman’s looks than her profile essay. Most women will be interested in what’s behind that handsome face. Is there good character? Does he have integrity? Does he seem emotionally available? A nice face is attractive, but a nice guy is a keeper.

So, which would you go for?




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