Help! My Sex Life Is Dying After The Birth Of My Baby


99.9% of women get excited about the thoughts of birthing a child even from a young age.  However, in many cases the joy of welcoming a baby can be overshadowed by a drastic decline in a woman’s sex drive after she has given birth.

According to experts quoted by Virtual Medical Centre website, it’s very common for women to experience lower libido – compared to before their pregnancy – for up to a year after childbirth and especially in the initial 4 to 6 weeks.

Caring for new born babies takes a lot of time and can sap you of energy. In many cases, new moms associate sex with another chore on their to-do list and being touched becomes more of a burden than an act of pleasure. Reclaiming your sex life after you have a child is a challenge that most couples face. Although it is difficult, it’s doable. The most important thing is to have some reasonable expectations of yourself and your body and you will get back into the sexual swing of things.

Another factor that kills sex drive is that the woman’s body is dealing with intense hormonal changes following the labor and delivery. In the case of breastfeeding mothers, their hormones are affected for the period they are feeding. In non-breastfeeding mothers their hormone levels stabilize 4-6 weeks after childbirth. Plenty of postpartum women also experience dryness of their vagina after giving birth, which results in painful sex.

Third, many women shy away from sex after giving birth because they become self-conscious about their bodies. In today’s world, where media is constantly feeding into the image of the ideal body and celebrities parade their perfectly toned figures just weeks after giving birth, the pressure is much higher than it used to be. The reality is most normal women don’t have the financial means celebrities do to pay for personal trainer sessions and personalized diet plans.


Below are some tips to help boost your sex drive:

• Don’t force yourself to have sex, wait until both partners are ready.

• Kissing, cuddling and spending intimate time are great ways of staying connected with your partner.

• Make sure to spend time as a couple, without the baby.

• To avoid sex being painful, have a water-based lubricant handy.

• Experiment with different sexual positions to find the one/s that feel most comfortable.

• Consult with your doctor if you believe you are suffering from postpartum depression.

• Always communicate with your partner about how you feel both physically and emotionally.

You both should have to schedule your sex life. The reason being most sexual issues women experience following childbirth improve within the same very first year. Even so, sexual activity does not return but adjustment makes it lovely. All new parents need to do is reschedule and tag along with the change. If you are both fine with not having sex as much, you are okay. But it is not about how much sex you are having or not but how much you both are genuinely happy with your new life changes and how fast you both adjust to the new change and still have the best of family life together.



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