Trust me when I say moms are just ‘trying to keep their S**t together’. Tess Holliday who is a mom and plus-size model posted a photo of herself crying on Instagram. In the caption, she shared an emotional message about the dark side of parenthood.
This is the reality of being a mom. I've been up since 3 am, & every time I get Bowie to sleep & try to lay him down, he wakes up. He is teething & has no clue I have to work today, & most days I can work 15 hour days, take care of both boys & put some lipstick on & deal with it. Most days I drink my coffee & smile at every little thing he does thinking it's the best thing in the world, but not today. I've been crying for nearly two hours, & I'm crying as I write this. I've reached my limit, exceeded it to be honest. My confidence has taken a blow with this birth & it wasn't until this morning I realized why. The pressure of "looking good" for a living is too much today. When your face is breaking out from the hormones of breastfeeding + total exhaustion from lack of sleep, bags under your eyes, patchy red skin & to top it off no energy to work out or leave my bed.. how do you do it? How do you feel confident in your skin & feel like you aren't letting the client down by showing up exhausted & disheveled? Yes, I chose a career based on my looks & I'm the first one to say that beauty isn't what should drive you, it's certainly not what motivates me. As a working mom in an industry that's as critical as mine, where is the line? The balance? The compassion? Is any career understanding when you show up at negative 10% because your kids wouldn't let you sleep & you want to hide under your covers & cry? Not many. I hope one day that changes & society views mothers as the flawed human beings we are that are just trying to keep our shit together like everyone else. #effyourbeautystandards #workingmoms #disruptperfectmomsyndrome
Holliday continued describing her experience as a mother raising a fussy baby while furthering her career in a looks-focused profession.
“As a working mom in an industry that’s as critical as mine, where is the line? The balance? The compassion?” she asked. “Is any career understanding when you show up at negative 10% because your kids wouldn’t let you sleep & you want to hide under your covers & cry?”
Answering her own question, she added, “Not many. I hope one day that changes & society views mothers as the flawed human beings we are that are just trying to keep our shit together like everyone else.”
@nickhollidayco captured this photo of me getting ready yesterday to shoot the next instalment of my #mblmxtess @penningtons collection, and it reminded me of @gisele's iconic photo breastfeeding on set💅🏻Working moms come in all shapes, sizes, colors & creeds! #normalizebreastfeeding #workingmom #whorunstheworld
Holliday’s post received over 73,000 likes, and the comments section is filled with encouraging messages from fellow parents who have been there.
As many commenters wrote, “You are not alone!”
I wrote a piece earlier today on coping with the demands of motherhood. Click to view post. https://onerandomchick.com/2017/03/02/help-i-dont-seem-to-have-time-for-myself-anymore-cos-of-my-kid/