What To Do With Your Broke-But-Wonderful Boyfriend


You thought for a minute that I was going to ask you to leave his sorry ass?  Hell No! At least for now *winks* Am also kidding.  But really, there are anxieties, guilt, and guilt about anxieties that can come with a low-or-no-earning male partner.

Yes, we are imperfect creatures, yes, it is maybe a bit hypocritical, but it is human. These dynamics don’t exist in a vacuum, and even the most #unproblematic feminists may feel a sense of stigma when with a guy who simply isn’t bringing home any kind of goody.

Let’s face it, women love to be wined, dined and spoiled. However, the reality is in this economy, a woman (or man) would be fortunate to find a mate with a job, let alone a sizable bank account. But are a man’s finances a deal breaker for you? After all, broke men need love too…and here are some reasons to continue dating your man who has an insufficient bank balance.


  • Goodness is what he’s made of

Sure, he may not make a lot of money, but that doesn’t mean he can’t spoil you in other ways. Does he rub your feet after a long day? Does he cook you dinner?  A good man listens to you, he would always be there for you.  He’s ready to see you through thick and thin.  He has a kind heard and a gentle spirit – and you can’t put a price tag on that.

  • He has potentials

Your man has talent, ambition and drive and you believe he’s going to be the next best thing.  Am sure there are lots of ways to find out that.  So you hang in there waiting for him to sign that NFL contract, for his record deal to go through, to sell one of his paintings or to publish that best selling novel. I mean Obama Wasn’t even the President when Michelle saw something great him. You could also envision great things for your man one day too. You support him, even though he has nothing right now, because all of that hard work and sacrifice will pay off in the end as you build your lives together.

  • You love him

There are a lot of things that money can buy, but an emotional, spiritual and mental connection isn’t one of them. Sometimes the heart simply wants what it wants, and when fate steps in, there is nothing we can do about it. True love is priceless.

So baby girl,  ponder on these thoughts and see if your man is really worth it.


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